Pet Peeve of the Month: *People who don’t know when to talk about me behind my back.* I encountered someone this past weekend who was entirely uncivilized.
This person, who I'll call 'Rick' (just because I feel that the name Rick really portrays this person) was they type of person who tries really hard to be 'real'. He likes to pretend that he says what he thinks and is just honest and blunt with you because, hey, we're all friends here. Wrong. No. We are not all friends here. I take offense at you when you are offensive.
Listen, I can identify genuine people easily, and while being genuine is definitely not one of my fortes, I can appreciate a genuine person. I still think being genuine is uncivilized, but at least they speak their mind in a way that makes you feel like you can trust them, and I think they make good friends.
Rick is not genuine. He has no censor button. It’s like someone told him that people are endeared to you when you are genuine, but he missed the genuine boat and got on the rude boat.
Here are a few examples from this weekend:
WNB (Me): "My ankle was really hurting me, and I was worried, until I realized I had just been wearing my shoulder bag on the same shoulder all semester and it was doing something to my posture and my ankle."
Rick: "Oh, so are real backpacks not 'in' at your school, and that's why you wear a shoulder bag even though it hurts you?"
WNB: "Wait, what? I had no idea my shoulder bag was hurting my ankle, what are you talking about?"
Rick: "Haha, nevermind."
We can tell that this is not genuine but obnoxious by how Rick demonstrates bad faith in this conversation. He says something rude which didn't stem from ignorance as evidenced by the way he backs down when confronted about his intentions.
Another example:
While sitting and talking, conversation turns to my love of celebrity gossip.
Rick rolls his eyes and says: "Celebrity gossip is so shallow though."
WNB: "That's what I like about it. I think the same things that make me like sociology make me like celebrity gossip. I love knowing what’s going on with pop culture and our society."
Rick: "Oh well if you're approaching it from a sociological standpoint then that's ok, I guess."
WNB: "No, I'm not. It's just fun. It's just a hobby. Besides, I can't think of anything not worth learning about."
Rick: "I think some things are not worth learning about, and that would be one of them."
*Listen kids, I am neither embarrassed nor ashamed of my hobby of reading celebrity blogs. I think they’re fun and entertaining, and I enjoy knowing what's going on in the world of celebrities. Knowing about celebrities is just a hobby, like knowing all about your favorite sports teams. *
When he insinuated that reading celebrity gossip is only ok if approached from an academic standpoint it reeked of a pretentious, and phony academic. Not to mention the fact that it is downright RUDE to tell someone their hobby is lame and insinuate they are shallow to their face.
I'm not saying that people can't disagree with me about the worth of celebrity gossip or secretly think I'm a fashion conscious schickimicki. The problem comes when they feel the need to tell me that to my face.
As Kathy Griffin says, “I was raised right. I talk about people behind their backs.”
Maybe you found this rant unfounded, obnoxious or ignorant. Fine, you're welcome to your opinion. Just please, do me a favor and don't tell me about it, talk about me to someone else behind my back.
4 comments:
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Best post ever! Way to work in some echt Deutsch-sprachige slang!
I like what you had to say about Rick's bad faith. When some people are genuine, it just demonstrates how sincerely disrespectful they are. So yeah, go ahead and be genuine, RICK. It doesn't make you any less of a dick.
Give me Rick's phone number. I have some very uncivilized but genuine things to say to his face.
Herr Professor Dr. Phillips,
Yeah, I guess that was what I was trying to say. He WAS being genuine, but decent and genuine should not mutually exclusive.
Rachel,
But it's so much more fun to make fun of him publicly, here on this blog, dontcha think?
Hey, found this blog just searching for some keywords and decided to read it (even though not relevant to my search). Totally agree with you.
But, in the future, I wouldn't use red and blue right next to each other especially on a dark background... it hurts some peoples eyes because the brain processes it as 3D. Sorry if that doesn't make since, its just a suggestion.
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